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Posted:Nov 15, 2015 9:22 am
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Goin to try to keep everything nice
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Not your type (?)
Posted:Feb 14, 2018 3:44 pm
Last Updated:Feb 17, 2018 8:52 pm

Sexy bloggers,
Let's see
I have been around dating sites long enough to have a pretty good feel about preferences, more specifically men's wording and his preferences when it comes to attraction.

When I read a profile and he states something along the lines of:
"Seeking hot/beautiful/attractive/sexy woman"
I pretty much just pass him by because experience has proven over again n again that he is 99% referring to conventionally attractive women.

My same experience applies to attractive/handsome men, generally they look for someone hotter then he is.

BUT... why don't (many) men believe me when I say that I'm not his type nor what he is looking for?
Do you not like the fact that you stated that you want attractive so that really does mean that you want attractive and I think most women have a pretty good grasp on where they stand on the "attraction scale" (#notallwomen) ...

So then he proceeds to make a big deal about not being "shallow" and that he's "open to everyone"! Pesters me into sharing a face pic........then he ghosts.
So much for not being shallow

Don't worry I am so used to it that I don't even bother trying. pays to know where you stand on the average scale. Lol. And yes the hookup guys are the worst when it comes to this, so don't believe it when they say men can get it up for a stiff breeze. I'm on a dating site that seems to have lots of attractive men on it, so I won't be meeting anyone soon on there.

So sexy bloggers,
Are you as open as you claim?
Do you get angry when she points it out that you want hot?
Or if she thinks she's hotter than she actually is?
(I think that's a catfish thing)
What about your preferences, set in age group and attractiveness?

(The younger she is the less hot she can be because yanno she's young)
Now I am not talking absolute troll material, just the average scale to hot.
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The kind of mood I'm in...
Posted:Feb 8, 2018 12:13 pm
Last Updated:Feb 10, 2018 7:21 pm

Yep winter is starting to drag on...cabin fever is setting in.
Insatiable again
Posted:Feb 5, 2018 1:17 pm
Last Updated:Feb 8, 2018 11:10 am
Maybe it's the increase in daylight or just a deep seated longing for sex... but whichever it is ...
it has been taking over my thoughts, my dreams, and creeping in every chance it gets.
Definitely testing my will power now... I just want to orgasm so badly
I want to suck cock,
I want to feel it slide in nice n slow and deep,
The scent of sex in the air,
Wet squirty orgasms with a cock buried in my throat.... sigh
Feel his hands on my body, the heat, the urgency,

Thanks mind, you have such a vivid spank bank. 😍😍😍😍

Just to feel a hard cock in my hand, in my mouth, deep in my cunt.
I just want to masturbate to my little hearts content. Lol

Anyway, #theStruggle is real.
Sinday morning
Posted:Feb 4, 2018 8:01 am
Last Updated:Feb 13, 2018 8:01 am
A drizzly ice rainy day yesterday, hopefully today is much better weather in the badlands.

One of those mornings where I am craving bacon and pancakes but I need to get to work....
Sex would be great also. Lol.

But I will take my coffee on the road and grab a quick bite, I will cook a nice dinner tonight though.

Spring is on its way and the badlands are going from mud pit to ice rink all in one day. Yesterday I ended up soaked, so today I will remember a change of gear just in case I end up in the rain n snow again.

Enjoy your day sexy bloggers,
I'm still on a break from porn, sex, stimulation, so ya my thoughts are pretty boring. ... I really do wonder how low sex drive people get through thier day or even have a lust for life. Lol
Summer on its way..?
Posted:Jan 27, 2018 4:08 pm
Last Updated:Jan 31, 2018 9:40 pm

Soon enough dear flower, soon enough.

Sultry nights,
Thinkin on long nights and even longer days,
sultry summer days that is.
Have you ever missed
. the touch of a lover,
a caress,
someone close by for a hug or a laugh...

Thoughts of past lovers and old friends...
. searching for new lovers.
Yearning for a gentle touch,
and a hard fuck
ever looking for pleasure but only find casual bored she'll do

Needing those hard hands to touch my soft skin..
. to feel my wet,
to stroke my lust.
Waiting to hear him breathe, to moan, to gasp,
. and to laugh

Dam ...who would have thought that so many lonely nights we would have
because we stray from the norm..because we lust for pleasure...
. Porn is empty but it equals the hookup sex
Looking for fun and passion...but where to find it

But tonight...
I will take a bed hog, and warm touch ...hold me until mornin
So I can sleep.
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Finally Friday...
Posted:Jan 26, 2018 12:33 pm
Last Updated:Feb 3, 2018 7:22 am

So the vagina is winning the battle right now. Lol.
Due to some health issues I needed to temper my libido way back since sept.

Let's talk about dreams so wet....
Back up a bit,

In the middle of the night my libido decided "well fuck she's sleeping, so let's do this!"... and I remember partially waking up to a very wet vag and cum all over my thighs.
Lol so wet that I took my top off and just put it between my thighs then fell asleep. Of course waking up in the morning with no top on was like..
.. what the heck happened
Then it slowly came back through the brain fog and I had to laugh.

...I just wish I could re what my dreams where masturbating to!

And then,
I think my body is fighting back, working it's way to being healthy again!
Especially the ladybits.

Soon enough I will be able to explore sex ... well that's if I find some. Lol

But masturbation will be on this rise, slowly but surely.

Its Friday but I get to work sat.
The weather is great today!

Sexy bloggers,
Wet dreams and erotic moments that flit through your mind,
Can you always re what gave you that tingly feeling?
Sinday in another city
Posted:Jan 21, 2018 3:30 pm
Last Updated:Feb 3, 2018 7:23 am
Well, actually I have been in Vancouver since Thursday

So my sinday is processing a weekend of kink, fetish, bdsm and sex positivity.
I had forgotten what it's like to be around people that are open and friendly, that don't (openly) judge others, that all legal ages are welcome.
I didn't actually chat with many new faces, being single and living in my city there are not very many opportunities to chat with strangers, so I mainly observed others. Which people watching is completely fine for me.

I have definitely noticed how spending too much time on sex negative sites like dating sites has affected my view of men. But then I don't find anonymous hookups to be sex positive as it seems enforce a selfish attitude with sex.
I saved up for this event so I had money to spend on things that I wanted. So I'm excited for my new fun things and a great new corset. Lol ya ya I get it, why buy sexy things when single. ...well I like how it makes me feel.

At least this trip reminded my how much is out there in terms of exploration and sexploration! I was beginning to think it was "just me" because of the amount of negative feedback I get from the dating site. I am reminded that people can find their desires and find people that are not emotionally closed off. They can find that freedom of expression. .. which this trip was also a test of sex therapy. it should help with processing the importance of sex in my life, yep even at my advanced age I still have a libido (which is currently hibernating due to some very tough mental work)...but once I start to wake it up then I better have a plan in place to deal with it.

Anyway, I am super stoked about my new corset, plus 3 new books, 7 lengths of jute.

Sexy bloggers,
How was your weekend?
Sinday eve
Posted:Jan 7, 2018 4:17 pm
Last Updated:Jan 31, 2018 9:41 pm
Ever have those moments,
you know the one...
where you think back with a smile and a flush of butterflies

Or that tingle, or that deep lustful ache
Do you recall that last stroke,
that tender touch,
the one lick...
that gave you that wonderful feeling, like you are the only two people...

The firm grip, the gentle tease
that fire in the kiss...

Hmm, those moments to be savored,
to ponder about,
the search to find it again.

Holidays are almost over,
Just sitting here doing the last of domestic duties for the week...
Just thinkin about lovers gone.

Sexy bloggers,
Make good use of these chilly nights.
Is the world still flat?
Posted:Dec 29, 2017 10:17 am
Last Updated:Jan 7, 2018 8:00 am

Good morning sexy bloggers,

Its almost a New Year!! ya!!
But then everyday is a new day and a new start on life.

So I had a good laugh the other day when a few guys tried to troll me for having adult toys. IS the world still flat?? Are your insecurities that consuming that you project your fears onto others.
I made a semi-sarcastic comment to a male blogger that opened with:
"if I were a woman" I would use this vibrating tooth brush!"
::insert winky face, school boy chuckle and rib poking to his buddies that are all blushing beside him..:: (fyi adult male in his 40's)

My response was that I have a fine selection of high end toys, why would I use a germ covered toothbrush.
::insert Innocent Flower, clutching my pearls (not pearl necklace) and looking bashful..:: ffsss ya I didn't buy that either. LOL!

Of course the volley of hurt comes to light and the subsequent battle cry of:
"THATS why women don't need men!!"
(╯°□°)╯︵ ┻━┻

My fav response was:
"@flower that explains everything"
(explains what I don't know, maybe bec I have a high sex drive and enjoy orgasms, or that I'm single but that also means I haven't found any with a matching libido... Pleeeassse boy explain what you mean by your statement!? ".)

WAIT wut?!
Why wouldn't I want a man/partner to share lifes greatest pleasure with??
Ahem...cough cough
Its not the tool that brings the pleasure its the lover.

(now did you u'all learn something just then?)

Anyway, nice attempt at trolling me, but within full Flower mode I kindly reminded them about RealDolls and fleshlights, about the desensitization that the porn death grip can bring... How real ED is becoming for younger men because of their expectations around what a pussy should feel like and what it is actually like.
... (rarely will you find that can match the strength of your own hand..just sayin,, and I do 100's of pelvic floor exercises a day and can squeeze a finger - but I will never match a mans hand for strength)... (ok now I am sad that I am being replaced by a Hand!! oohh what will become of me besides withering into a dried up Flower! Men don't need wimmens because he has gasp 2 hands!!) Sounds silly doesn't it.

The struggle is real on both sides of the gender divides, you just have to find others that match your demons not your angels.

So sexy bloggers shall I write on porn death grip and the no fap movement, or write about how people are now talking about the slow sex movement and dating, what about having a healthy view of sex and masturbation. How about the fact that more and more people are missing intimacy and touch in their lives bec they have fallen so far into "independence" and the hookup culture ...many are forgetting how to interact with others in real life and they want porn to be life.
Wait, how about "STOP all this hate on the other sex".

I love sex, and I am sure you enjoy it too, I much prefer sex with some but I also see no shame in masturbating at healthy levels.
(sorry to exclude the asexuals, but I am a sexual being and this is my writing)

Ok..shyt... can some me down from this soapbox??

Sexy bloggers,
Are you intimidated by toys?
Have you explored with either his, hers, or both?

What is stopping you from being a little adventurous? or at least having an orgasm from a little extra stimulation?

(yep I get it not all women need toys, some can get off with just fingers or a light breeze..lucky ducks. )
Sinday quesion for the menfolk
Posted:Dec 10, 2017 9:20 am
Last Updated:Dec 20, 2017 11:36 am

Ok, so lala's post piqued my interest, see -> Question for the Women Cold Calling

Its been awhile since I also asked this question:

how do you handle it when a woman approaches you first?
I am meaning a first message on here or any site. Not just the site generated icebreaker or flirt, but an actually invite to talk further.

(Not approach first in real life because we all know that if a man is interested in real life he will approach first, if he hasn't approached or even looked at you then you may as well be invisible. lol.)

Do you respond to every message you get?
Are you nice with your rejection letters?
Do you simply just block instead of replying?

And here's a big one,
Do you put the same effort into the sex or her as you would have if you pursued first?

To make this fair, please only think about women over 40 messaging you first.


Yes in an ideal world every 22 yr old coed cheerleader would be sending out first messages. lol
Your a fake then!
Posted:Dec 8, 2017 8:56 am
Last Updated:Dec 20, 2017 12:35 pm

Sorry skippey it's
*You're not your

I do have to chuckle when I see men claim #allwomen are fake just because she didn't put out to your calls for anonymous sex. For many female body people casual sex really isn't that grand for them.
I have seen soo many males comment that it's just for fun so why do I need to put the effort into the sex... and then they wonder why more women are not into casual sex. Lol
I even did that once or twice, I would ride him till I was done with my orgasm (only takes a few mins) then I would get off and start putting on my clothes or going to take a shower -> yanno treat him like many men usually treat casual sex, "I got what I wanted so maybe it's you that is broken and it's not my fault that you didn't orgasm, maybe you should see a doctor or something. But we aren't dating so why are you complaining? You got laid didn't you!"

Not a very nice idea is it, but it happens plenty! I have had my share of women tell me they experience more of the bad rather than the good.

SO what can we do to make it pleasurable for both sides?

If experience shows that a woman's pleasure is only given when he actually likes her as a person and if she feels comfortable with him, and for the most part that is within a relationship -> then how do you make the casual sex worth the time?

I will only give as much as I get now, I never go above what he's giving me - why? Because of one too many takers out there left me very sexually frustrated.
And yes I understand that she has to be hot and attractive before he will put effort into sex I got it, lessons learned the hard way...

I even find it worse in the kink side, most men/people just want hookup kink, the vast majority of male bottoms just want kink done to them but don't want to return any pleasure or even a thanks (then they wonder why there are more pay to play female tops/dommes).

Just because we aren't rushing out to meet you in a parking lot to fuck you doesn't mean we are fake or work for this site.

I came here looking for kink friendly partners and lots of pleasurable experiences and rarely found it no matter what effort I put in. So don't call me a fake just because I am in no hurry to be used as a masturbatory sleeve or fetish delivery system.

I am pretty certain I can call most of the men fake also by this logic, because they claimed they are looking for mutual fun but they never specified that they meant only with hot young coeds and all other vagina carriers just get the cum dump. Lol
So ya it works both ways.

Sexy bloggers,
How do you make the sex worth the time?

Are you in the "fun only" camp?
Do you try and make it less awkward?

What is your secret to always having a super duper awesome time?

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